Tolmeia Gregory

📝 Some of you need to take notes from the parents in your lives who are persevering for what they love most. This stuff is hard (parenting, fighting for climate action, avoiding AI, fearing food shortages, not allowing ourselves to give into doom) but it requires us to keep showing up for what we love. ‼️ Want to do just that? Head to @stopcambo to see what quick actions you can take to help us stop @andy.burnham approving another oil field. This is urgent. #parenting #activism #doomscroll #motherhood

Here’s how I’m balancing life as a new mum with activism 👀 Spoiler: I don’t. I got asked this question recently and I thought I’d speak the truth and let you know you’re not alone if activism hasn’t slotted neatly into your life as a new parent as you might have imagined. I was totally that person who was dreaming of my baby being able to fit perfectly into my existing lifestyle but babies are unique individuals and sometimes we have to work around them by not attending a protest at nap time or by prioritising our own rest, too. I can’t wait to take my child out on the streets with me (hopefully sooner rather than later) but there’s a lot that we can do while nap-trapped and sleep deprived at home, too. Solidarity with all the new parents itching to get back out there in this new season of life ✊👶 #parenting #activism #motherhood #sleepregression #babies

📘🍿 Here are some of the resources that I found comforting/helpful/insightful/reassuring (or all of the above) before I became a new mum earlier this year 👉👉👉 Why include the things I avoided (or tried to avoid)? Because this topic is sensitive and sometimes we need to set boundaries and ensure we don’t do more harm than good. This is especially important for folks who are already pregnant or postpartum - your mental health is SO delicate right now. Look after yourself and know your limitations ❤️‍🩹 Save these for when I’m too busy looking after a baby to make new content of my own 😅 #motherhood #parenting #parentrecs #postpartum #pregnancy 📚 Read: The Conceivable Future @conceivable.future Matrescence @lucyfjones All We Can Save @allwecansave 🎬 Watched: The Climate Baby Dilemma The End We Start From 💕 Followed: @its.themamaspace @unthinkable.earth @relauren ✊ Joined: @parentsforfuture_uk @mothersriseup ⛔️ Avoided: True story films like The Lost Bus Content that places blame on parents (It’s okay to set boundaries and limits - it doesn’t make you avoidant or in denial, it makes you human)

📝 Some notes on being 5 months postpartum and how I see life with a newborn reflected in the world around me - full piece at the 🔗 in bio, where I tend to share writings from the heart. “Two months ago, deep in the midst of another relentless heatwave, I stood gazing upon the sandy, sun-scorched grass of my local park, just one still lit cigarette away from being set ablaze, my 3-month-old baby strapped to my chest. In that moment, I came to the decision that what we face as a collective is comparable to life with a newborn…” #motherhood #parenting #climatechange #postpartum #newborn While greenery shoots back up across our fields and lawns after some much-needed rain, I feel a bit like the land too; a little brighter but still prone to flooding. The sticky, sweaty heat. The red glow of the GroEgg in our bedroom, which didn’t drop below 25°c for months. The baby sleep-suits that were worn a handful of times before the heatwaves set in and now no longer fit. The oven we avoided turning on at all costs to keep the kitchen just a few degrees cooler. The duvet that now lives folded up on the floor. The never-ending white noise of the tower fans. The patch of golden straw that borders the road near our house, previously a plush green grass. The drought. Another hottest summer on record. Thousands of deaths across Europe. Fires. Smoke. Devastation. Glacier collapse. When I was pregnant, I dreaded what it would feel like to experience the climate crisis while raising a child and my anxiety suddenly shifted from something that felt distant and hypothetical, to something that felt very real. I now felt utterly and totally unprepared. I started to wonder if we’ll ever be prepared enough, if now was the time to start packing an emergency to-go bag and if we should start stockpiling food. How can we be responsible parents if we aren’t prepared for an emergency?

🛍️ Best thrift find in a while, thanks @totalenergies, I’ll be thinking of you while I crush your oil drum with my fist 👊 💥 #Thrifting #charityshop #totalenergies #collection

❤️‍🔥 Doing nothing is still doing something when our houses - are literally - on fire. These decisions, both political and individual, are the stories we will tell our children. I sit here with my baby experiencing the 5th heatwave of their very young life feeling sickened once again by our government that is acting like this is all just something we can control by having fewer picnics in the park. Our air quality level is in the red as surrounding counties battle more fires exacerbated by unprecedentedly dry conditions. Firefighters are sharing how desperate the situation is getting and how unprepared we really are, despite the warnings from scientists decades ago. You can make sure the story you tell is one to be proud of. Join the fight. Show up. Get uncomfortable. Don’t stay silent. Every single fraction of a degree of global warming we can avoid is lives saved - don’t let anyone (like @andy.burnham) make you ever forget it. ✊ Groups to join: @parentsforfuture_uk @mothersriseup @stopcambo @thegreenparty #heatwaves #parenting #motherhood #wildfires #postpartum

@ all parents: if you can endure birth or the newborn trenches, you can endure being the one to point out that this isn’t normal and that our house is on fire, on behalf of all our children 🔥 #motherhood #parenting #heatwave #wildfires

Found out I was going to be a mother 1 year ago today 🌸 The most mindblowing thing I’ve ever done. 👔 👖Charity shop 🕶️👩‍🍼 @vinted Trying my best to be a cool mum on a hot planet 🌍